These are my daughters, my princesses.
When you have children, it's your job to love, protect, cherish and care for them.
That's just a mother's duty.
Everything that I do has an effect on them in some way, negatively or positively I am showing them how to be, who to be and how to react to conflict.
My life has become a lesson plan in a sense, it becomes a way for me to convey how to be a woman to them without having to utter a word.
Would I stand up for them? Yes.
Defend them? Yes.
Do I think that by acting like a child in front of them, I am leading an example that I would be proud of? No.
Why is it that some people think that you can yell, scream, and throw fits in front of your children and it has zero effect on them?
Do you think this makes you a bigger person? A stronger person?
Wiser?
Not at all.
It takes a strong woman to stand silently and politely walk away from something especially while her children are present. This teaches two lessons:
1. I am a lady and I will act as one, even if you are not.
2. My time is valuable and I will not throw it away, especially not for something as frivolous as mindless bantering and arguments.
Is that something I am proud of? yes...
I had a situation the other day when a particular individual decided to get a bit bent out of shape because they were CERTAIN I was saying something about them...and this person got loud and disrespectful and I walked away...she kept going and eventually got to where she called me a name.
While I would have loved to have said one back, I said, "thank you, goodbye" and left the matter at rest.
I asked my daughter what she witnessed and she said she heard the other person call me a bad name. I said, "Did mommy say any of those words back even though she said them to me?" and her response was "no, because we don't say bad things to people."
My 4 year old learned this lesson and I got to teach it by example.
Not only do I feel like an excellent mother but I feel like the bigger person. Sure, stooping down to someones level might feel like the primal instinct, it might feel like what we just HAVE to do...but in the end it's not worth it, especially not with people like that.
I'm glad God gave me the sense to know how to love and respect my children's time and attention and I pray He allows me to cultivate and instill those same values unto them. In the grand scheme of things, the loudest people are the littlest ones and probably the loneliest ones..
People will be who they are, there is nothing you can do about that...but life is too short to worry about the ones that really don't matter.
I have an amazing God, a wonderful husband and two beautiful children and they are my focus.
Mrs. Romero
